By Brittney Willis
Rare-coming or occurring far apart in time; uncommon; not happening very often.
I knew there were situations that happened in my life that could definitely fall under the category as “rare”. But for me to be considered rare by God? That is something that I am learning how to accept on a daily basis. “I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well” Psalm 139:14.
I never thought I could be considered rare. The only thing rare about me was my skin color, and I was picked on about that. You see, my skin is very fair and it will not tan. I have experimented with plenty of self-tanners and tanning beds just to “blend in” with the crowd. I never could accept that God’s intention was for me to stand apart from others. Try as I might, to apply layers of self-tanner, it would eventually fade, and once again, my true color always revealed itself.
You may ask why I am saying this and it is simply because when we have natural gifts and certain unique characteristics that distinguish us from everyone else, we are taught by the world that these are deformities. Our uniqueness is a disability, according to the world’s point of view. It is all about perspective. It is time for us to stop comparing ourselves to others and be thankful for our differences.
Every single woman no matter how different they are, they all want to be someone else. They are all unhappy with God’s handiwork. I long for the day when different types of women will have a new similarity. They all will be thankful for how they are made. They will not argue with themselves anymore that they know better than God. God never thinks he is bigger than me. My attitudes of low self-esteem and self-pity demonstrates that I think I am bigger than God.
Society tells us that we need to “fit in” to be accepted. God wants us to be set apart! “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house” Matthew 5:14-16 I had it all wrong! It is not about how “I” see myself. It is about how God views me. Once again, I turn down how the world sees me and turn up how God sees me!
I don’t think God’s intention for our lives is to totally destroy ourselves with our own thoughts. It is time for each of us to begin to embrace our authenticity and stop condemning. You are unique. You are beautiful, and you are loved. God loves my stretchmarks, they show my growth. God loves my wrinkles, they show determination. God loves the size of my nose, it inhales life. God loves my scars, they show healing.
How do I start really believing and accepting this “rareness”? When everyone else is arguing, do I join in the argument or am I the one bringing peace?
When everyone else is gossiping, Do I offer my two cents, or do I remove myself from the situation? If all my friends are having sex, should I just do it to gain acceptance? “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20